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Some days ago, we held a “Cookbook” on “Life and relationship mapping“. What is a Cookbook?In short, it is what at the moment I consider “an experiment in participatory wisdom“, the current incarnation of something I started 8 years ago to collect practical advice and experiences about how to make relationships (and life in general)… Read more: Life and relationship mapping

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What is an adult relationship? What is adult relating? Is it the same thing? How does it work? Do we have any idea? In the last few months, I’ve been saying that I am interested in ethical consensual committed adult relationships something that mostly shows that I am bad at marketing/finding cool, snappy names.

This is a short-ish version of something I have been thinking about for a while. I put it here because I am having part of this conversation again, and again, and I hope to be able to say: this is my starting position, let’s build on this.I have no idea if this will work. At… Read more: Relating as practice

[Note: I am less pleased with this writeup than with others, and I struggled more. Maybe it is the topic, maybe it is me.] On Monday, the 1st of February, we held a Cookbook about Relationship Design. I already posted some of my considerations on the whole idea of process design, here are my notes… Read more: Relationship Design: choose your own adventure

Here are some of my considerations and thoughts I was planning to post before a I hosted the Cookbook on “Relationship Design: Choose your own adventure“. Life ensued, and it happened already. Since the write-up will take a few days longer, I am going to post this in any case. The inspiration comes from several… Read more: On process design

Recently, I have been thinking about patterns related to codependency a lot, and it has been a topic of conversation with several friends. Codependency sounds very harsh, in this case I refer to the tendency to: overly adapt to the (sometimes imagined) emotional needs of someone else trying to make them “feel good”. A friend… Read more: “For you, or for me?”

On Monday, the 7th of December, we held a Relationship Cookbook about commitments. What is a relationship cookbook? At the moment, I call it “an experiment in participatory wisdom“, and the current incarnation of something I started 8 years ago to collect practical advice and experiences about how to make relationships (and life in general) work.… Read more: Commitments

[epistemic status: it works for me, but I am a bit preachy on this. Take with a few spoonfuls of salt] I am talking a lot about commitment, and committing, these days. I am even hosting a relationship cookbook on the topic tonight. I am realizing that, since a few years, commitment is something quite… Read more: Some notes on commitment

You officially have the permission: To try things. To have fun. To make mistakes. To go on adventures. To be yourself. To try to be someone else and realize it’s too much work and not worth it [I]if you haven’t realized it yet: don’t worry, we will wait for you, you will get there eventually.… Read more: Permission

On Monday, the 23rd of November, we held a Relationship Cookbook about growth in relationships, and even about the reasons we actually do relationships. What is a relationship cookbook? It is the current incarnation of something I started 8 years ago, to collect practical advice and experiences about how to make relationships (and life in… Read more: Relationships and growth: back to the basics